A little more than three years ago, I made a life-changing discovery: I am an introvert. I know introversion is kinda trendy right now (or maybe it’s just finally come into mainstream discussions), but stick with me.
I had just had our second child and made the transition into being a full-time stay-at-home mom. Our older daughter was leaving her baby years behind and entering the age of questions. I was tired, grumpy, and even feeling like I was going crazy every afternoon around 2:00.
It wasn’t until somebody recommended Susan Cain’s TED Talk (The Power of Introverts) that I had the introvert epiphany. I wasn’t going crazy–I just wasn’t alone long enough to recharge my batteries.
It can be tricky to be a stay-at-home mom, homeschooling mom, or small business owner as an introvert, but it can be done with the proper support from your spouse and close friends. In the past three years, I’ve gotten to know a handful of local moms who all identify towards introversion–it’s so refreshing to have long conversations (in person or online) with other women who understand my struggles with nap strikes or schedules that are packed too tight.
If this is something that you are struggling with today, here are a few resources that have really helped me (along with a piece of dark chocolate and an hour of quiet):
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I knew Nurture by Nature was worth more than a skim when I got to this line in the second paragraph of the introduction:
“In order to really parent each child lovingly, she must respond to each child’s needs, rather than demand both children act like the same person. The only really effective parenting, she concluded, was individualized parenting. By addressing the needs of each child, she could begin to nurture and parent them in the way she wanted and they deserved.”
This morning, I met two of my awesome friends at a local park for a casual hike. I struggled with the choice to go or not for a few minutes (we have morning plans every day this week), but I knew I would regret NOT going later. Spending time with friends fed my soul while my extrovert got her “people fix” and my little one burned off some energy, making nap time a sure thing. I also got to listen to a podcast on introversion (resource #4) on our way home, inspiring this blog post. 🙂
Self-care is important, mamas! Getting to know yourself and what makes your kiddos “tick” can only make you a better parent. If you’d like to read Nurture by Nature with us this month, we’d love for you to join our Mom’s Book Club. If you’re not local, you’re welcome to share your thoughts in our online discussion here.
Your turn: Which of these books jumps out at you? Are you an introvert or an extrovert–or one of those lucky people in the middle?